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G.O.P. Hypocrisy

New York Times, April 25, 2003
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By Dan Savage

SEATTLE—Gay groups are trying to turn Senator Rick Santorum into the next Trent Lott. It’s not going to work. Mr. Lott lost his post as Senate majority leader because he said something he wasn’t supposed to. Mr. Santorum, who holds the No. 3 position in the Senate leadership, was only repeating what many Republicans have already said.

After telling a reporter that he likes homosexuals just fine—provided we refrain from engaging in homosexual acts—Mr. Santorum came out in support of laws against sodomy. A right to privacy, he said, “doesn’t exist in my opinion in the United States Constitution”—for gays, straights, anybody. He then compared homosexuality to bigamy, polygamy, incest and adultery. Too much freedom—allowing gays and lesbians to live openly and without fear of arrest, for example—is “antithetical to strong, healthy families,” he said. Homosexuality may not be as bad as “man on child, man on dog, or whatever the case may be,” he said, but -

At this point the reporter broke in. “I’m sorry, I didn’t think I was going to talk about ‘man on dog’ with a United States senator,” she said. “It’s sort of freaking me out.”

She wasn’t the only one. Gay groups called for Mr. Santorum’s head, while antigay groups like the Family Research Council, once headed by Gary Bauer, rushed to defend him. But Mr. Santorum needn’t worry about his leadership post. Unlike the former majority leader, Mr. Santorum didn’t slip up and say something in plain English that every good Republican knows must only be said in code. Unlike Republican appeals to racist voters, Republican appeals to homophobic voters are overt. During the 2000 campaign, Alan Keyes appeared on the same stage as George Bush and denounced the “radical homosexual agenda” that he said was destroying the American family. Candidate Bush, now President Bush, failed to respond, even though his running mate’s daughter is a lesbian.

But gays and lesbians are more than just sons and daughters. We’re moms and dads, too. My boyfriend and I adopted a son five years ago, and we plan to adopt again. As more same-sex couples start families, it’s going to be harder for Republicans like Mr. Santorum to say we are somehow a threat to the American family.

As much as it may dismay Mr. Santorum and his defenders, there really is no word other than “family” to describe the three people who live in my house. When it comes to marriage rights, gays and lesbians are willing to play semantic games. We will use awkward phrases like “civil union” and “domestic partnership” so long as we can get what our families really need: the rights, responsibilities and safeguards of legal marriage. But two adults who love each other and are raising children together? What are we if not a family? What other word is there for us?

In our culture, homosexuality is discussed only when it presents a problem—for the armed forces, for closeted gay students in high school, for those who imagine gays are undermining society. Rarely is homosexuality credited with the creation of something positive and lasting. Desire brought my boyfriend and me together. And it’s simple desire that brings most couples, gay or straight, together. Responsibly acted on, this desire is a good thing in and of itself, and it can often lead to other good things. Like strong, healthy families.


New York Times, May 2, 2003
229 W. 43rd Street, New York, NY 10036
Fax: 212-556-3622
Email: letters@nytimes.com
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Dan Savage (“G.O.P. Hypocrisy,” Op-Ed, April 25) excoriates Senator Rick Santorum’s failure to recognize that “same-sex couples” who adopt or have children are “families.”

As much as it may surprise Mr. Savage, my love of 25 years and I are not just a “couple” brought together by “desire.” Even without children, our love, dedication and caring through sickness and health, good times and bad, have also created a “family.”

—Paris R. Baldacci, New York


Dan Savage’s observation that it is socially acceptable to be a homophobe, but not a racist (Op-Ed, April 25) brought to mind a prophetic statement by Bayard Rustin, who battled both racism and homophobia in his 60-year career as an activist and organizer.

“Twenty-five or 30 years ago,” Rustin said in a 1986 interview, “the barometer of human rights in the United States was black people. That is no longer true. The barometer for judging the character of people in regard to human rights is now those who consider themselves gay or lesbian.”

Given the hateful views of gay men and lesbians espoused unapologetically by leaders like Senator Rick Santorum—and the sobering fact that it was only four months ago that New York enacted legislation to protect gay citizens from discrimination in housing, employment and public accommodations—we have a long way to go.

Bennett Singer, Brooklyn
The writer is co-director of a new PBS documentary about Bayard Rustin.

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