Fear to Dignity: 2 Gay Men, 2 Journeys
Times, June 29, 2003
P. O. Box 70, Seattle, WA 98111
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By Jonathan Martin, Seattle Times staff reporter
For Hugh Charest, love and sex were things he had to keep
For Brian Davis, the unfamiliar “closet mentality” is
to be avoided.
Hugh Charest spent most of his life in the shadows of the
gay closet. He remembers when men were beaten outside of bars and fired from
their jobs. The 64-year-old didn’t come out to his sisters until 10 years
Brian Davis has spent most his life unafraid and
unapologetic. He came out by reading a gay love poem in a high-school English
class. He’s 29 and wonders this: When will prohibitions against gay marriage
be tossed out like the Jim Crow laws that were used to discriminate against
A ruling last week by the U.S. Supreme Court punctuated a
battle for legal rights and social acceptance that, for gays and lesbians, is
as significant as the civil-rights movement was for blacks or the feminist
movement was for women.
The 6-3 ruling invalidated the sodomy laws of 13 states
and declared gay sex legal and private. Gay-rights supporters hailed it as a
monumental decision in a movement that started with violent protests outside a
New York gay bar 34 years ago.
But opponents decried the ruling as a devastating blow to
moral values. Many fear that legalizing gay sex is a dangerous step toward
legalizing gay marriage—as Canada is doing.
Charest remembers feeling panicky the first time he saw
two men holding hands on Broadway on Seattle’s Capitol Hill.
A retired nurse, Charest remembers when sexuality could
bring a beating or a night in jail, loss of a job and loss of friends. He
remembers the backlash that came with AIDS, when dozens of friends died as
anti-gay conservatives argued that the virus was a punishment for
But for Davis, 35 years younger and a professional
activist, “To not kiss on the sidewalk is like going back to the closet
Washington state tossed out its sodomy laws in 1975. The
years since have seen the passage of laws that protect gays on the job,
policies that extend domestic-partnership benefits to gay couples and churches
that ordain gay ministers.
But the decades-long progress of the gay-rights movement
can be tracked in two lives: one lived primarily in the closet, one lived
almost entirely out.
Love in the shadows
Charest grew up in Spokane, the son of a laborer. He was
14 when curiosity drew him to the downtown library, where he signed books out
of a locked section, taking care that friends didn’t see him. The books
painted such a damning portrait of homosexuality that Charest sought refuge in
a Roman Catholic seminary high school.
He was 15 when he had his first “date,” with a
teacher twice his age. “We went for coffee, we went for lunch, then we went
to the hills to play with each other,” he said.
Charest studied nursing at Carroll College in Helena,
Mont., where he fell in love with a former football player he met in a local
bar. When Charest joined the Army after graduation, his lover followed him to
Fort Leonard Wood, Mo., taking an off-base apartment. They would drive two
hours to St. Louis for dates to avoid being seen.
After serving in Vietnam, Charest was discharged through
Fort Lewis in 1965. His lover had died of alcoholism, and Charest was taken by
the small but lively gay-bar district in Pioneer Square.
Even so, Charest said he never walked in the area with
gay friends. Men would walk alone to the bars and back to their cars, often
taunted by police.
His family probably long suspected he was gay, Charest
said, but didn’t discuss it directly until 10 years ago, just before his
“She said, ‘That’s the way you are, and I can’t
A movement is born
Washington’s sodomy law dates to the state’s birth.
But enforcement of that law varied depending on the moral tenor of Seattle’s
politicians, said Gary Atkins, author of “Gay Seattle.”
In the mid-’60s, a Seattle ordinance banned
cross-dressing, and a prominent minister was convicted of sodomy based on the
unreliable testimony of a hustler; the conviction was later overturned.
“Every city, including Seattle, for many years has had
a problem with homosexuals,” wrote Seattle Police Chief Frank Ramon in a
1966 memo noted in Atkins’ book. He feared “an influx of homosexuals when
the information available is that the community is ‘soft’ or
‘tolerant’ of homosexuals.”
At the same time, police were coercing payoffs from
gay-bar owners. When The Seattle Times reported the scandal in 1967, it
emboldened a fledgling gay-rights movement.
Two years later, the Stonewall riots in New
York—provoked by a similar “gayola” scandal—launched the national
Progress for the movement wasn’t always forward. In
1972, Tacoma teacher James Gaylord was fired for joining The Dorian Group, a
pioneering gay-rights club.
The Washington Supreme Court upheld the firing five years
later—even though the state had since tossed out its sodomy law—because
membership in a gay organization made Gaylord an “overt” homosexual who
had no protection from civil-service laws, wrote Justice Charles Horowitz.
In that atmosphere, Charest took care to keep his private
“You couldn’t take anything for granted,” said
Charest. “You couldn’t be guaranteed you have a job, a home, a life. You
could be fired tomorrow for being gay.”
‘Superman’ and ‘The Front Runner’
As the gay-rights movement gained momentum across the
country, Brian Davis was growing up in Omaha, Neb., the son of a former Black
After seeing “Superman—The Movie” as a 5-year-old,
Davis asked his mother if he could one day marry a man like Superman. He
played football and had his first sexual experience at a high-school speech
tournament, stealing a few moments away from chaperones with a student from
Like Charest, Davis turned to books to understand his
sexual feelings. But unlike Charest, Davis didn’t have to look hard: “The
Front Runner”—the story of a closeted track coach’s love for his openly
gay runner—was a guide to gay relationships.
By 17, Davis was tired of keeping a journal to chart his
lies to friends about girls he was interested in. After coming out to
classmates, he went home, packed a bag in anticipation of being kicked out and
told his parents, who are Jehovah’s Witnesses.
But neither his parents nor his friends rejected him.
“I never had a sense I was bad, only that other people thought it was
wrong,” he said. “I never internalized it. I knew it was the other
Davis attended the National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force’s camp near San Francisco and returned home to Omaha to fight
But when Nebraska voters passed a constitutional
amendment banning gay civil unions, Davis grew weary of what he saw as an
Two years ago, he moved to Seattle, where he works as a
community organizer at Gay City Health Project.
“I wanted to live in a place where I could see
victories, not just defeats,” said Davis.
AIDS—A forgotten lesson?
Davis was a boy when a mysterious disease began appearing
in Seattle hospitals where Charest worked in the late 1970s.
Charest was spared the fate of many gay men of his
generation. In 1976—before HIV/AIDS erupted—he became involved with an
attorney. By the time they parted 14 years later, the bathhouses had closed
and safe sex was the watchword.
But the deaths of dozens of friends launched him on a
spiritual journey that led to his ordination as a minister with the
nondenominational Metropolitan Community Church in 1988. As AIDS continued to
take its toll, he presided over so many memorial services that the smell of
flowers would make him sick. Much as he celebrates the legalization of gay
sex, he is alarmed that HIV infection rates are again on the rise, spiking 40
percent in King County this year. It worries him that young gay men haven’t
heeded the lessons of the past.
“People have forgotten what it was like,” he said.
“We’re going to see an AIDS epidemic come back that will knock our socks
But Davis doesn’t want to go back to the days when sex
was equated with fear. “For so long, the message was to protect yourself and
wear a condom,” he said. “Today, it’s protect yourself and feel good
about yourself. Emotional health has to be tended like physical health.”
Hugh Charest will be on the sidewalk today watching as
gays and lesbians, relatives and friends march down Broadway in the annual Gay
Brian Davis will be in the parade, marching for Gay City.
Similar parades will be held across the United
States—an annual way to mark progress, or decry setbacks, in the gay-rights
In Seattle, the parade will include a celebration of last
week’s Supreme Court ruling.
For Charest, who spent much of his life closeted, the
ruling removes a lifelong threat of being arrested for acting on his
For Davis, born into different times, it affirms a life
he has never apologized for.
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